Okay, now I'm convinced. You gotta' get this NO thing under control. It is the KEY to your new found happiness.
I took my 30 days article and turned it into a 5-7 minute speach titled, "Embrace Your Inner No," which I delivered at my Toastmasters meeting on Tuesday evening. Some of you have read and commented on that article, and the feedback I received after Tuesday night's speech was no less impactful. Saying no makes most people feel guilty. Sad when it's such a great word, and when, used properly actually empowers others to accomplish ALL of the things you have been doing for them. I don't have to tell you what you already know––you're the one who has been enabeling them.
So I said to myself––"Self," I said, how about a challenge to my followers & friends. A prescription for taking your power back. Hey, you can blame it on me if that helps you over the YES hurdle in the beginning. Just say, "I would but I'm doing something for Crystal at that time." It's true!
If you think of Yes as the disease, then NO is the prescription given to you by Dr. Crystal.
You have to start small I know, because the people you've been saying yes to might faint the first time you don't drop everything you're doing to run them across town in 5PM traffic to pick up a pair of shoes to wear with a dress to a party that you're not even invited to. But you gotta' start somewhere and 5 minutes from now is just as good a time as any.
So take a look at some of the potential No's below and just choose one of them. Start right now and work it from April 4 - May 3, 2013. If you have success, I want to hear about it and you can post something at facebook.com/30daysat100percent. And if you start to feel empowered, tweet it to me @Crystal_Wright and I promise to tweet back.
Choose just one of these No's and dedicate the
next 30 days to exercising that new muscle!
Perhaps
you can decide to
STOP rearranging
your schedule to accommodate the last minute whack plans of others.
Bad planning on their part, should not constitute an emergency on yours.
Saying No will
empower them to become better event planners
in their own lives.
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Perhaps
you can decide to
STOP explaining why
you said no, when it applies to your
TIME, your MONEY, your PROPERTY or your BODY.
The explanation only leads to a
conversation you don’t want to have,
and guilt that isn’t deserved.
Let your “No” be NO!
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Perhaps
you can decide to
STOP being talked into doing
things and going places you have no interest in.
Read a book, go see a movie, check out an exhibit at the museum, or take
golf lessons
A simple, “No, I have other plans,” will suffice.
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Perhaps
you can decide to
STOP dating someone
who isn’t nice to you and therefore not right for you.
If they're being mean to you and you're staying, they don't respect you anymore anyway!
Just say, “No,” only a railroad track allows
itself to get run over.
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Perhaps
you can decide to
STOP spending more
money than you have on things you can’t afford.
Put that money in a savings account and build yourself a future.
Just say, "NO," to keeping yourself in debt.
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Perhaps you can
decide to
STOP sharing your dreams
and goals with people who continue to discourage you from
thinking outside of the box,
trying new things or taking the next step.
Not everyone who calls themselves friend has
your best interest at heart.
Say NO and let them talk to the hand.
I don’t expect that taking your power back by exercising
your option to say No will happen overnight. It took me three
years to lose 55lbs by choosing to say No
each month to one item of food that was killing me.
But believe this, Your liberation begins with a DECISION and is followed by the repetitious action of
saying No to the things and people YOU
have enabled.
Do not wait another second. Say no right now. Open the window of your car and scream it at the top of your lungs. Look at the stranger sitting next to you and say NO, when they ask, "What?" tell them you are just practicing.
Now, have a GREAT rest of the month.
Sincerely,
Crystal A. Wright
Empowerment Diva: I get people Unstuck and YOU are on my list of things to do!